The Ultimate Back-to-School Guide: Preparedness for Parents
As summer winds down, the return to school can bring a mix of emotions for children: excitement for new beginnings, but also anxiety and uncertainty about changes in routines, classes, and academic pressure. For you as parents, navigating this transition requires understanding and proactive steps to help your children feel secure and prepared. With this guide, I hope to offer practical advice to ensure a smooth and safe return to the classroom and the digital world.
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Re-establish Routines Gradually - A week or two before school starts, begin to shift back to school-time routines. Consistent mealtimes, bedtimes, and wake-up times can provide stability and predictability, helping to lessen anxiety and improve concentration and sleep.
Encourage Open Conversations About Feelings - One of my regular pieces of advice is all about communication! Create a space for your children to discuss their feelings openly. Ask them what they are looking forward to and what might be making them worried or unsure. Show them it's okay to talk about their feelings and that it can help reduce anxiety. Regular, natural conversations about their day can make them feel more comfortable coming to you if something feels wrong online or offline.
Prioritise Sleep - Adequate sleep is very important for a child's concentration, memory, emotional regulation, and brain function. Establish a relaxing pre-bed routine that excludes screens for at least an hour before bedtime, encouraging calming activities like reading instead.
Be Alert for Hidden Signs of Anxiety - Some children may not express their anxiety verbally. You are the best judge of when your child is not themselves, but be on the lookout for things like increased irritability, withdrawal, or physical complaints like stomach aches. If worries persist, it's wise to speak with their teacher or the school's pastoral team early on to ensure they receive the necessary support whilst at school.
Help Refresh Social Connections - Creating opportunities for your child to reconnect with friends before school starts, through video chats or playdates. Seeing familiar faces can ease the transition back to school and provide comfort on the first day.
Cultivate a Calm Morning Routine - The morning sets the tone for the entire day. Plan to ensure a consistent routine that allows ample time for breakfast, getting dressed, and calm conversation. Avoiding a last-minute rush is in everyone’s best interests and will significantly reduce stress for everyone.
Focus on the Positives - Shift the conversation to highlight the enjoyable aspects of school, such as seeing friends, engaging in their favourite subjects, or participating in exciting activities.
Visit the School Environment - If your child is starting at a new school, or if it helps with anxiety, consider visiting the school grounds beforehand. Walking the route can make the environment feel more familiar, especially for younger children or those with additional needs.
Involve Them in Planning Ahead - Engage your children in school preparations, such as choosing school supplies, packing their bag, or selecting lunch options. This involvement can provide them with a sense of control and build excitement for the upcoming school year. Using calendars or checklists together can also reduce last-minute stress.
Maintain a Positive and Present Demeanour - Children are highly perceptive and can sense your emotions. During drop-offs and other key moments, strive to remain calm, positive, and present. Avoid prolonged goodbyes and reassure them that you'll be there for pickup. A consistent, reassuring presence builds their confidence and resilience.
I wouldn’t be much of a Cyber Safety Guy if I didn’t also cover helping keep them safe online! As children return to school, their online activity often increases, whether for homework, social connections, or entertainment.
Open and Honest Communication is Paramount - As I often preach, communication is your greatest tool. Have regular, non-judgmental conversations about their online life, just as you would their offline life. Ask them about their favourite online activities, who they're talking to, and why they use certain apps. This builds trust, making them more likely to come to you if something goes wrong.
Modern "Stranger Danger" - The old "stranger danger" concept has evolved, and children need to understand this. Not everyone online is who they claim to be. Teach them never to share personal details (full name, address, school, phone number) with anyone they don't know in real life, or to arrange to meet someone from the internet without your involvement. Predators can spend months or even years grooming children online.
Utilise Parental Controls and Tools - Strong parental controls on home broadband, computers, smartphones, and game consoles are essential. You can set safe search settings on browsers and streaming platforms like Google and YouTube.
Be Aware of Apps and Digital Footprint - Keep up with the apps your children are using. Some apps are designed for hiding activity, known as "spam accounts" among the youth. Be transparent with your monitoring and discuss privacy settings on social media. Remind them that anything they post, share, or comment on creates a digital footprint that can last forever and impact their future.
Recognise and Address Cyberbullying and Online Scams - Cyberbullying has moved from the playground to the digital world. Look for signs like withdrawal or acting differently. Teach your children to recognise online scams, avoid clicking suspicious links, or downloading unknown files. Malware can also be used by predators to gain remote access to devices, including webcams and microphones.
By combining these practical tips for managing the emotional and routine aspects of returning to school with good digital safety practices, you can enable your children to navigate the school year confidently and securely, both offline and online. Your active involvement and ongoing conversations are the most powerful defence you can provide to your children.
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